It is difficult to stay optimistic when you're hunting for a job with limited responses, heavy financial burdens, and constant negativity in the media about the economy. Finding a new job or a new career can be rough and emotionally challenging.

Albert Einstein said: "In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity." You can find opportunities in negative situations if you are willing.

Use this time to re-invent yourself and your career, develop new relationships, reconnect with old ones, and strengthen the relationships you have. Seeking a new opportunity will be a lot of work and it can be emotionally draining, which is why you have to take time for yourself to remain in a positive state of mind.

You might find it helpful to do things that you have not had time to do while working such as reading a book, going to the gym, or walking your dog. Take the time to do the activities you enjoy that will rejuvenate you by using this time off work to your advantage. Take this time to build a closer relationship with your family, drive the kids to school, or have snacks prepared when they get home; this is an excellent opportunity to open up the lines of communication when you would normally be working. Have lunch dates, pack a picnic, or brown bag; make time for the friend who you're never able to connect with due to your conflicting schedules. You will likely find your friend supportive encouraging, and advocating in your job search.

You will be exhausted from applying to opportunities, from rejection, from interviews, and from the stress of it all. In the interim, take this time to strengthen your spirit!

Just remember, before you know it, you will be back to work.

You've heard it before and you'll hear it again: "Networking is the best way to get a job."  That much is true.  Sometimes I hear "My network will get me a job. So I'll start building my network right now!"  So you go to networking events, shake some hands, introduce yourself, and exchange business cards.  You go home happy, thinking, "The five people I met tonight can all be eyes and ears for me in my new job search."

There's one big problem. Those five people each retained maybe three seconds' worth of information about you.

Those folks are strangers. There is an excellent chance that if you called any of these five people on the phone tomorrow, you'd say your name and they'd ask, "Who?" They would have completely forgotten you. That's not surprising. Quick networking-event handshake conversations are not ideal for establishing the trusted relationships that lead to job-search introductions.

You've already have a network that can help you.  The network that matters most for job-seekers is the network made up of people who already know you.  

Events Go Only So Far

The meet-and-greet gatherings are terrific places to meet people who may, over time, with cultivation, become trusted members of your network. Those events deserve 10 percent of your networking time, at most. The rest of the time is better spent re-connecting with your old, trusted network connections.  

Most of us are lazy networkers. We say, "It's easier to meet new people than to dig up and touch base with old ones." Yet the people who already know you and have worked alongside you can vouch for you, with credibility. Someone who met you last week can say, "I met a smart guy last week at the Networking Event," and the first question he'll be asked is, "What do you know about him?" What can he say in reply, apart from "Nothing"? That's not the kind of job referral you need.

It's time consuming and dull, but you've got to find and make contact with the people who can speak with authority about your work. Maybe you've lost track of all of them and that's OK. That's what LinkedIn and search sites are for. It can be awkward to call someone and say, "I'm sorry we've fallen out of touch," but it's critical and with the current social networking mindset, it's completely acceptable and commonplace.  

Nurturing Your True Network

You can start refreshing your true network.  Your true network is the circle of people who have authentic and impressive stories to tell about you today. Grab a piece of paper and a pen (or sit down at your computer) and start writing names. Search your email and address book! Most of us, when pushed to do it, can list 50 people we should reconnect with. Job number one will be finding these people and reaching out to them to catch up on what you and they have been doing since you last spoke. Job two is letting them know about your job search.   

Meeting new people can be fun for people who like that sort of thing, but meet and greet networking should not be central to your job search. Tracking down and catching up with old colleagues, vendors, friends, and schoolmates is by far the more high-impact networking activity.

This blog reminds me of a classic book by Harvey Mackay, "Dig Your Well Before You're Thirsty."  I think that sentence says a lot.  So what are you waiting for?